Recap Of Love & Marriage: Huntsville Season 4 Episode One: “Mar-so Messy”
pinknarcology · Reality TV Recaps
Love & Marriage: Huntsville Season 4, Episode 1 Recap: “Mar-so Messy”
I’m back with Love & Marriage: Huntsville, and Season 4 wastes no time. We have a solo trip to Africa, a photo that throws a brother under the bus, and enough “ole girl” talk to fill a group chat. The title says Mar-so Messy, and honey, they meant it.
Spoiler warning: I’m getting into the Season 4 premiere, “Mar-so Messy.” If you haven’t watched yet, come back when you’re ready. Everybody else, let’s get started…
Marsau Took a Trip, and Latisha Took Notes
The episode begins with Marsau and Latisha going to a restaurant for dinner. At dinner, Latisha reveals that Marsau had some time away for himself. He went to Africa without her. He ignores the condescending tone and the pissed-off look on her face and thanks her for understanding that he needed to go alone.
She then reveals that she wasn’t pleased that he went alone and was wondering why he needed to go out of the country by himself. We were all thinking the same thing, Latisha, especially when you remind him that you have never been to Africa and would have loved to go.
He says he needed to get away. She says she is also under a lot of pressure, and going as a couple would have been nice. I just wish she would leave it alone, seeing how he left her home anyway, so what is the point of pushing the issue? Well, since he did get away, she asks him what his focus is now. He says his family, his loved ones, and himself. Oh yes, we can all clearly see you focus on yourself, sir.
He gives us a long speech about valuing his time over money, and he regrets working so much. He says he wants to be an example for his kids of how to live every day of their lives. And the look on Latisha’s face says it all. I doubt she would be able to decide to go to Africa and leave him stuck at home. Remember the time she just wanted to go out of town with her friend and this man tripped?
Poor Latisha.
She doesn’t seem to have a lot of power in her relationship. I don’t know too many women who would be this accommodating and let their husband go to another continent to get away, where he couldn’t be reached, without putting their foot down. But Latisha doesn’t have a choice but to let it go.
He tells her he has also decided he needs a personal assistant. And he tells her it’s going to be a woman. Latisha says he can have a woman as his personal assistant as long as Latisha approves her. She thinks it needs to be an older woman. For some reason she forgets that, young or old, she will still be female, so what is the point? I guess for Latisha, an older woman is not competition.
That Atlanta Photo Has Everybody Talking
She calls him out for being messy. Does anyone recall that at the Season 3 reunion, Maurice denied seeing Martell with Arionne Curry, who was Martell’s mistress? Marsau admitted to going to Atlanta with Martell, and Arionne was also there. Well, Marsau went to social media and posted a picture of the trip to Atlanta where we clearly see Maurice was there.
Do you want to know my opinion? Marsau was tired of being the one dragged for allegedly cheating on Latisha, so he put the picture out so that Maurice would also be dragged. Because Arionne alleges that on that trip, Marsau and Maurice also had their side pieces there. Those are her claims, not established facts.
Why do you all think he threw Maurice under the bus? Leave a comment. I would love to know what you all think. Either way, I agree with Latisha; it was messy to do that to your brother, Marsau!
Latisha says “ole girl” wants to be relevant because, after the picture was posted, Arionne made a slew of comments on social media in response to messy Marsau putting it out. Latisha tries to go off on a tangent about the rumors of Marsau cheating that were brought up by Melody, but Marsau interrupts her. He tells her to stop, and she says, “Okay.”
He scolds her for bringing up the rumors. She says she is going to stop, but once again tries to bring up another thing that “ole girl” said. He once again tells her to stop and shuts her down.
Now, Latisha, you were just calling him messy, right? But here you go giving shine to a mistress who says she doesn’t want to be mentioned on the show. And here you go mentioning her! Yes, you are calling her “ole girl,” but we still know who you are gossiping about. And it’s mighty funny how Marsau can afford to get on his high horse when he just went into the gutter and threw his brother in there with him. Y’all both messy. No wonder this relationship works.
Sigh.
Marsau says he doesn’t like the negativity, but if you follow the fallout on social media, he is repeatedly fanning the flames. At least Latisha has decided this season not to cry, but now she has decided to act like all of the rumors about her husband don’t bother her. Well, they should, because he is the reason those rumors exist. Stand by your man, Latisha, and all of his mess. He says nobody calls you a dog and expects you not to bark…
Shut up, Marsau.
Lol.
Next…
Martell and Louis Hit the Gym
Martell arrives to work out with Louis at his gym. Martell says with all the things occurring in his life, the gym has been his outlet. He says that Melody has not been doing the things she is supposed to do, again.
Do tell, Martell, because you know he can’t miss an opportunity to down Melody in every way he can. He says Melody has two phones, but she keeps the one he is allowed to call off, so he can’t talk to his kids every day like he wants to. I guess it never occurs to him that if he were still in the home with his kids, he would be able to talk to them all he wants. But we also know personal responsibility is not Martell’s strong suit.
Louis tries to give him some helpful advice rather than calling him out for being the reason he doesn’t have access to his kids… or Melody… the way he used to. Because we all know Martell really seems like he needs to have access to Melody, huh?
Louis asks Martell how he dealt with Melody’s infidelities…
Shut up, Louis.
Martell once again says that Melody cheated, as he describes it. And once again, WE DON’T CARE. Melody explained that she was separated from Martell. But let’s just say she did cheat; it was nowhere near the level he took it to. That doesn’t make it right, but I get annoyed when Martell uses it as a justification for having a mistress who he repeatedly got pregnant, and now he has a son from that relationship.
Louis tells Martell he appreciates him stepping up for him at the reunion when he and his wife, Tiffany, were called out for not being transparent about their lives. Martell says no one on the cast is transparent about their marriages either. Louis doesn’t seem to understand why he and his wife got the backlash they did. Ummm, Louis, you don’t remember your wife being messy and bringing up things on camera that she shouldn’t have? But he seems to think playing victim will make us forget, so, okay.
Louis says that Marsau putting out the picture of Maurice at the trip broke the man code.
Shut up, Louis.
This is what got you and your wife in trouble before. Here you go bringing up Marsau when you know that will be an issue, so don’t play victim when Marsau calls you out like your wife got called out all last season. Now I see why you two are married. Both of y’all are messy too!
Martell just wants everybody to stop throwing each other under the bus. It’s obvious Martell really wishes nobody had mentioned his affair on camera so he could have continued to keep things the way he had them set up. He says he doesn’t want Maurice’s marriage to end… that could be true.
Next…
Kimmi, Zeus, and Some Hard Questions
We see Kimmi with her dog, Zeus. Awwww! He is a cutie. She says with everything happening lately, the dog has kept her centered. Maurice and his son Monster walk up, and Kimmi asks Monster to take the dog so she and Maurice can talk.
Maurice questions Kimmi about Zeus being her therapy. Kimmi says there are certain things you get from children and from pets, and that’s unconditional love. Maurice adds, “And from husbands.” Kimmi says once again, children and pets.
Lol.
Kimmi says she is overwhelmed by a lot of the things going on in their family. She brings up Marsau releasing the picture, and all of a sudden Maurice starts acting nervous. Maurice says Marsau posted the picture to be funny. Kimmi wants to know what about that was funny. Because now the suspicious public is accusing him of cheating, and Kimmi isn’t laughing. Kimmi says they weren’t married, but they were dating, so if he did cheat, she would still consider it a violation.
Kimmi wants to know if Maurice cheated with the woman Arionne claims was there with him (she called her a “linebacker”), and after some hemming and hawing, he finally denies it. He says he wouldn’t have dated a “linebacker.” Sir, that’s not a denial. That’s a review.
But Kimmi doesn’t ask it again another way, the way any woman would; she just lets his answer stand. All of his smirking and smiling would have made me turn into Perry Mason. But that’s just me. I would have picked up that he clarified his answer without providing clarity. But Kimmi obviously knows him, and his answer was clear to her.
Maurice doesn’t seem to understand that while he doesn’t care that the public sees him and his brother a certain way, it’s the wives who get criticism, and the wives care. Maurice tries to deflect by asking Kimmi to reach out to Latisha and be there for her. But Kimmi is too smart for that. She needs Maurice to stop making her look like a fool.
Whew!
Next…
Destiny Has a New Mic and a New Friend
Destiny is in a music studio singing a song she is recording. Latisha has come to visit her…
{Record Scratch}
WTF! Since when was Destiny a singer? And when did Destiny and Latisha become good friends?
Destiny says after all she went through with her divorce, she is turning her pain into art, and apparently her and Latisha’s friendship has grown in the past year… Giiiirl, you get the side eye, but I like Destiny, so I’m going to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Destiny shares that she was on public assistance after her divorce. So music really is cathartic for her with all the difficulties she has faced being a business owner and single mom. In her confessional, Destiny almost cries, and I was a little teary-eyed for her, but luckily we are both too gangsta for that, lol.
Destiny says she hasn’t spoken to Melody. Latisha says because Destiny and Melody are in music and both newly divorced, they have a lot more in common. Well, it seems to me Latisha and Destiny now have a lot in common, and it is starting to feel like it’s their passive-aggressive dislike for Melody… does anyone see that, or is it just me? I could be wrong, so let’s just see how this season goes.
Destiny says she hasn’t told Melody that she has started a music career because Melody hasn’t been around.
Apparently Melody confronted Latisha and Destiny because she overheard them talking about her when they were staying in a hotel following the reunion. Destiny says she and Melody had brunch after the incident, and Destiny says she repeated everything she said. Melody told her she didn’t appreciate her speaking about her to Latisha because Latisha is her enemy.
Latisha appears shocked that Melody refers to her as her enemy. Latisha doesn’t consider Melody her enemy. She says she thought they were cool, and so did Destiny. Despite sitting on national television gossiping about her, Latisha says she doesn’t want to come between Destiny and Melody’s friendship. What friendship? Seems to me that ship has sailed.
Next…
Charcuterie, Wine, and Friendship Updates
Melody meets with Kimmi to do an activity and talk. What’s the activity? They are going to learn to make charcuterie boards. So they are at a wine shop being instructed on the process and snacking and drinking wine while they catch up.
Kimmi tells Melody that she got a dog. Melody is happy for her. Kimmi says it is helping her mental state. Melody brings up the rumors surrounding Kimmi’s marriage and says she did text Kimmi to check on her, just like Kimmi does for her.
Kimmi tells Melody she doesn’t know why Marsau posted the picture. Kimmi says she asked Maurice, he said he didn’t cheat, and she believes him. Melody says in her confessional that she believed her husband, and look what that did for her…
Right. But Maurice isn’t Martell, and Kimmi isn’t Melody, because she says cheating is a deal breaker for her. Kimmi says she is more concerned about Latisha’s feelings about the matter. When Kimmi says that Latisha told her she didn’t read all of the comments under the picture… Melody rolls her eyes.
We all know Latisha read the comments, because at dinner with Marsau, she was trying to bring up what she read under the picture but was cut off. This season, Latisha seems to want to be a united front with Marsau, who has no problem making her look stupid. But let that be a lesson to anyone about marriage: sometimes you support your spouse and protect them even when they throw you to the wolves…
Kimmi thought that Latisha and Melody were in a good place…
NOT!
Melody says she overheard Latisha and Destiny talking about her…
Sigh.
She says she confronted them and asked them to lower their voices because she could hear them, and that was that. We both know she and Destiny went to brunch, and we know what became of that.
But Melody claims Destiny admitted she was talking bad about Melody to Latisha and apologized… well, that’s not what Destiny said. She made it seem like she and Latisha were just talking about what was said at the reunion, and Melody was upset that Destiny was talking about it with Latisha. I’m confused… was Destiny talking bad about Melody? What do you all think?
It’s one thing to vent and another to gossip. Either way, I think it’s sad, because it seemed like Destiny and Melody had a good friendship, but it turns out it wasn’t solid. Because look at where they are. Melody says she learned from her relationship with Martell not to give people second chances, so her friendship with Destiny is over.
Well, damn.
She also says she is having a pajama party slash sleepover but tells Kimmi that Latisha and Destiny aren’t invited, so don’t tell them. Melody, didn’t you already pull this move before?
She tells Kimmi she also invited Tiffany, and Kimmi looks as pleased as a toddler about to get a shot at the doctor’s office.
Lol.
Melody says it’s going to be fun, and she ordered all of the ladies attending matching black pajamas. Cool, we can’t wait…
Next…
Dinner at Micah’s Gets Served With Shade
Marsau and Latisha are having dinner at Marsau’s brother Micah’s house. Micah’s wife is also there, along with Kimmi and Maurice. So there are three couples having what looks like a beautiful dinner with steak, lobster, and some type of fish…
Yum!
They start eating, and immediately Kimmi asks Marsau what he was thinking by posting the picture…
Lol. Kimmi plays no games, and I’m here for it! Marsau didn’t think it would involve Kimmi, despite knowing the public is looking for any shred of proof that he and Maurice are cheating. He thought the end result would be that Maurice was complicit… well, go ahead and just feed into the rumors, why don’t you? Marsau was wrong and he knows it, but in my opinion, he really doesn’t care because he thinks it’s entertainment to add stress to his brother’s marriage.
Kimmi calls him out. She says there were more negative comments directed at Marsau than at Maurice. She says the person being hurt was Latisha, who had to read them. But Latisha says she wasn’t hurt by the comments.
Sigh. Okay, Latisha. All of a sudden she is unbothered by the rumors. And Marsau says he is immune to caring about the rumors. So he thinks it’s funny to fan the flames because, for him, the consequences don’t affect him.
Maurice brings up that he could have joked about the rumors that Marsau has a side baby, and Marsau says that would have been a low blow. Well, boo hoo, baby boo. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander, and they all know Marsau can dish it out, but he certainly can’t take it. How is it cool to joke about your brother cheating, but he can’t joke about you cheating?
How Does the Episode End?
Maurice says there are things he knows about this whole situation that he doesn’t say… and even though she was smiling, the look on Latisha’s face was priceless… thought you didn’t care, Latisha?
What Are Your Thoughts?
So, was Marsau’s photo just a joke, or did he know exactly what he was doing? And Maurice, what exactly are these “things” you know but don’t say?
Share your thoughts in the comments, and keep reading pinknarcology for more Love & Marriage: Huntsville recaps.
This recap reflects the author’s recollections and opinions about an edited television program; accuracy is not guaranteed. It is for entertainment and discussion, not diagnosis or mental health advice. pinknarcology is not affiliated with the show, network, or cast.
References and Further Reading
These resources provide general background on relationships, emotional support, and mental well-being. They do not verify episode events, establish anyone’s motives or diagnosis, or confirm any rumor or allegation discussed in the episode.
- Benson, Kyle. The Gottman Institute. “Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings.” General relationship guidance on empathy, listening, and understanding another person’s perspective.
- National Institute of Mental Health. National Institutes of Health. “Caring for Your Mental Health.” General information about emotional well-being, self-care, social support, and seeking professional help.
Comments
Post a Comment